It's no secret that every girl dreams of her wedding day. A beautiful white dress, a handsome groom, gifts, flowers...Many even picture themselves walking down the aisle, even though they aren't catholic, or even christened at all.
Little girls wrap themselves in white sheets, clumsily paint their faces with their moms make-up, you know, enjoy themselves. Some collect photos and newspaper articles about the places where they'd like the ceremony to take place. Years before the actual proposal, everything is usually planned and picked out, down to the shade of lilies that the bridesmaids are to carry.
That's supposedly great, but there is a couple things wrong with this. First off, everything is chosen by one side alone, and the man's opinion doesn't really interest anyone, and, secondly, nobody cares how much all this is going to cost. This way, when it comes to a proposal, the new-made groom gets smacked with so many demands that it takes him a lot of gut not to through his fiancee's hand back at her.
I'm kidding, of course, his intentions are way too deep, and his love too strong for him to get scared off that easily. Besides, it assumed that it's not only he who is supposed to pay for the wedding, but also the parents - both his and his future spouse's.
Still, the amount of money people spend at weddings is. Insane. Compared to a young family's income, it is enormous. I'm not talking about the rich kids getting married out of their inheritance, but, in both cases, organisers and brides do their best to make the whole thing as expensive as possible.
Here comes a logical question - why? I mean, yes, this is the most important day in a girl's life, her send-off into the grown-up life, so on, so forth. But, seriously, these are just excuses. Life doesn't stop after the wedding - it's only just beginning! And all this money could really help the new family get on its feet. Why not save it until, let's say, a baby is born? Or, if they really want to live in the present, spend it on a cruise?
I may be called pragmatic for this, but, come on, in order to enjoy one of the happiest days of your life, do you really need to spend a budget of a small town on it? Especially since it's a wedding with the person you love. Because I get a feeling that a girl wants to spend all her money on this day because it's going to be the last good thing ever to happen to her. But that's not true - there are so many wonderful days ahead. Where does this wish to go all-in come from?
Don't even get me started on the fact that brides get so obsessed with everything going perfectly, that they get crazy antsy. And just crazy. They ruin the whole thing for themselves and everyone else involved. Weddings get canceled - not put off - CANCELED because the photographer was late. What's the big deal? Of course, this celebration is important, but it's not worth all the brain cells and money that people waste on it.
Instead of comparing ivory to champagne for the hundredth time, why not think about your life after the wedding? What it's going to be like - waking up together, raising children, growing old side by side. If these thoughts aren't as appealing as those of a perfect dress, there shouldn't even be a wedding, because it would be with a wrong person.
By focusing to much on a single day, you might miss that, and make a giant mistake, if, of course, you are not one of those brides who want not one, but a few "most important" days. So, girls, my advice to you is: thing about the marriage, not about the wedding. Guys...pick a wife with the right kind of dreams.
Little girls wrap themselves in white sheets, clumsily paint their faces with their moms make-up, you know, enjoy themselves. Some collect photos and newspaper articles about the places where they'd like the ceremony to take place. Years before the actual proposal, everything is usually planned and picked out, down to the shade of lilies that the bridesmaids are to carry.
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I'm kidding, of course, his intentions are way too deep, and his love too strong for him to get scared off that easily. Besides, it assumed that it's not only he who is supposed to pay for the wedding, but also the parents - both his and his future spouse's.
Still, the amount of money people spend at weddings is. Insane. Compared to a young family's income, it is enormous. I'm not talking about the rich kids getting married out of their inheritance, but, in both cases, organisers and brides do their best to make the whole thing as expensive as possible.
Here comes a logical question - why? I mean, yes, this is the most important day in a girl's life, her send-off into the grown-up life, so on, so forth. But, seriously, these are just excuses. Life doesn't stop after the wedding - it's only just beginning! And all this money could really help the new family get on its feet. Why not save it until, let's say, a baby is born? Or, if they really want to live in the present, spend it on a cruise?
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Don't even get me started on the fact that brides get so obsessed with everything going perfectly, that they get crazy antsy. And just crazy. They ruin the whole thing for themselves and everyone else involved. Weddings get canceled - not put off - CANCELED because the photographer was late. What's the big deal? Of course, this celebration is important, but it's not worth all the brain cells and money that people waste on it.
Instead of comparing ivory to champagne for the hundredth time, why not think about your life after the wedding? What it's going to be like - waking up together, raising children, growing old side by side. If these thoughts aren't as appealing as those of a perfect dress, there shouldn't even be a wedding, because it would be with a wrong person.
By focusing to much on a single day, you might miss that, and make a giant mistake, if, of course, you are not one of those brides who want not one, but a few "most important" days. So, girls, my advice to you is: thing about the marriage, not about the wedding. Guys...pick a wife with the right kind of dreams.
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